Simplify your Holidays

Many of us look forward to the holidays with memories of family gathered around a fire, a big Christmas tree with lights and ornaments, and the aroma of delicious food wafting through the air. These traditions may be in our minds whether they were ever a reality in our lives or not. Depression wreaks havoc during the holidays because our hopes and expectations of traditional holiday activities, most often a construct from movie screens, often fall short and we become aware of our feelings of disconnectedness. 

The holidays can create an onslaught of stress, and worry. It’s a time when our normal schedules and routines are put into upheaval in the name of traditions. And when life circumstances change, it is difficult to chase traditions that no longer fit and experience an entire month of chaos, rather than joy. Yet It can be hard to tell loved ones that you won’t be doing what they’ve come to expect of you.

This season might be a good time to adapt traditions so that you, your friends, and family can more fully enjoy the holiday spirit.

1. Simplify - Although it can be fun to see your home decked out for the season, perhaps you have downsized, or the idea of placing all those decorations feels overwhelming. Decide how much holiday decorating is important to you and access or purchase only those decorations. If you have family or friends sharing your holiday festivities, they can also be a part of the decorating and preparation team. Assign the work and make everyone feel a part of the activity.
2. Preparation – If it’s difficult to write cards or shop for gifts, recruit a friend or family member to help with those tasks. You can also shop online and send e-cards.
3. Look at the lights –A great way to get into the Christmas spirit is to drive through your neighborhood or area and look at the decorations on the houses. Invite loved ones and assign a driver if you do not drive. Bring a thermos of hot chocolate and set the radio to play Christmas carols if you’d like. This can put everyone into the holiday spirit and takes little effort.
4. Mealtime – It is not necessary to adhere to a specific traditional menu. Evaluate the menu and opt for those foods that feel important. Have each person bring an item to share or assign items to the capable cooks. Have non cooks bring beverages, napkins, and ready-made items like dinner rolls or a prebaked pie. Make it easy and appreciate the reduced stress sharing can bring.
5. Change the time – If it’s difficult for everyone to come together at a specific time, make your dinner a brunch, or a luncheon. The important part of the holiday is the comradery, not the rules.
6. Create a new tradition – If you are looking for lower key holiday activities, try an at home sing along, a game of cards, or a holiday movie. Devise an at home scavenger hunt or set up a watercolor tutorial and let everyone express their creative side. 
7. Distance comradery – Distance can separate loved ones and we are even more aware of their absence during the holidays. Use technology, such as FaceTime and Zoom, to stay connected to loved ones from afar. Gather family and friends in front of the computer and share a song or story. Create a memory for everyone, even through an online experience.
8. Share holiday memories – Have everyone share a holiday memory or tell a story about what the holidays were like when they were young. Sharing memories can create a feeling of closeness and connectedness.

The holidays are a time for sharing and creating joy. Stress can ruin the joy for those responsible for all of the work. Whether you are unable to continue doing the work or you just don’t want to have to struggle to make the holidays fun for everyone else, and not fun for yourself, it is okay. You can gain just as much or even more joy when you simplify. 

A Professional Caregiver

A care worker is an excellent consideration, both in preparation for and while aging in place. They can provide care and companionship, assist with errands, grocery shopping, and meal preparation. They can help you with your holiday plans and activities, making your experience easier and more joyous! You can find a professional caregiver through our website, whether you need someone full-time, or for just a few hours a week, Right at Home will work with you to select the perfect, qualified, professional caregiver to make sure that your needs are met. Each caregiver is screened and bonded to ensure professionalism. Our unique five-step process will provide just the right fit for your family. Contact us today at 631.352.0022 and ask for a FREE in-home consultation.