Improving the Holiday Experience for a Loved One With Alzheimer’s or Dementia

It’s the holiday season, and you’re probably planning some festivities. November is National Alzheimer’s Awareness Month, a time to heighten awareness about Alzheimer’s disease and show support for the more than 6.2 million Americans living with it. If you’re caring for a family member who has Alzheimer’s disease or another type of dementia, some preparation can help things go smoothly and ensure they enjoy the holidays as well.

Alzheimer’s-Friendly Tips: If You’re Hosting

If you are the family member who traditionally hosts the celebration, adjust your plans accordingly. In previous years, you had more hours to spend decorating, shopping, baking, and preparing your home for overnight guests.

But now, you may have your hands full with your loved one’s care. Explain that you will need to simplify and ask others to pitch in with the preparations. Maybe someone else can host. Or make the holiday meal a potluck. Perhaps other family members can stay with your loved one while you shop and run errands.

If they’re able, let your loved one with dementia help you with baking, decorating, and wrapping presents. They might still have memories of holidays past. Encourage them to share their thoughts, even if their memories aren’t accurate. Listen to favorite holiday music together. Show them photos of the guests who will be arriving and talk about who they are.

If family members from out of town haven’t seen your loved one in a while, communicate with them before the visit about how the disease has changed your loved one and what they should expect. The more at ease guests are, the more able they will be to connect with your loved one.

This is especially important if young children will be at the gathering. Explain to children that their relative has an illness that makes it hard to remember things. Tell them that it’s fine to ask you questions about it. Children can be frightened and confused by changes in a beloved grandparent or other relative. Yet interactions between young children and people with dementia can be simple, sweet, and emotionally rewarding as they connect on their own special level.

Alzheimer’s-Friendly Tips: When the Guests Arrive

Encourage guests to introduce themselves to your loved one at every encounter and not to take it personally if your loved one doesn’t remember them. Make festive name tags for visitors. Give guests some tips for communicating with and including the person who has Alzheimer’s. The National Institute on Aging offers these tips:

• Help family and friends realize what your loved one can still do and how much they can understand.
• Give visitors suggestions about how to start talking with your loved one. For example, make eye contact and say, “Hello, Aunt Ellen! I’m Jenny, your niece.”
• Advise guests to avoid correcting the person with dementia if they make a mistake or forget something. Instead, ask visitors to respond to the feelings expressed or talk about something different.
• Help family and friends plan fun activities with your loved one. A photo album or other activity can help if your loved one is bored or confused and needs to be distracted.
• Arrange for your loved one and children to set the table or work on a simple craft project.

Alzheimer’s-Friendly Tips: Keep It Simple

Some holiday traditions may be difficult for people with dementia, not to mention the disruption to daily activities. Try to keep things low-key and be alert for signs that your loved one is distressed. Try to adhere to your loved one’s usual schedule for eating, sleeping, and resting. It might be better to have a few family members visit at a time rather than large groups. During gatherings, arrange a place in the house where your loved one can retreat if they become overwhelmed.

Alzheimer’s-Friendly Tips: Safety Considerations

You may also need to adapt your traditional holiday decorations to keep your loved one safe. For example, blinking lights can be disorienting for a person with dementia, so use only lights that don’t flash. Avoid decorations that could be mistaken for food. Don’t leave your loved one alone with a lighted menorah or fireplace. And be mindful that extension cords and clutter could cause a fall.

People with dementia may forget the particulars of the holidays, but the emotions last. For other family members, having included your loved one in this way may well turn out to be a warm, long-lasting memory full of holiday spirit.

How Right at Home Can Help

If you are a family caregiver caring for a loved one with Alzheimer’s or other form of dementia, it can be overwhelming and stressful, especially during the holidays. A Right at Home caregiver can help during your event by providing comfort to your loved one with dementia and freeing you up to host all your guests. We offer a wide range of services, including respite care, so you can take time away to reenergize, run errands, or go to appointments. Our trained and bonded caregivers can help from just a couple of hours a day up to 24/7 care. Find the location nearest you to get more information.

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